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Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Sibling Rivalry

Involving my daughter with my pregnancy helped curb her baby jealousy. We involved her in everything from naming the baby to letting her spruce up my belly's curb appeal with some exterior paint. Despite all our efforts they still fight but I don't stress about sibling rivalry and their battles for Barbie control and toy dominance. I know they will eventually find their own unique place in the world and stop fighting over the same space.
I love my own sister. I adore her and can't imagine my life without her. She held me down, spit in my face, flushed my head down the toilet and locked me outside buck naked. I am a better person for all her torture. We are as close and drastically different as only sisters can be. I remind myself that my daughters' spats, battles and quarrels are the foundation for a lifetime friendship. I have stopped obsessing over fostering a loving relationship free of sibling rivalry between my children. Instead I am trying to remind myself that they are two individuals building a relationship. Their strongest bonding moments will develop when I am not around and it is a bond that will probably outlast me. They are already sorting things out beautifully without me playing referee. My oldest assured me today,
"Don't worry mom, I'm training baby sister".
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31 comments:

annie kelleher said...

i am so glad - speaking as an Oldest Sister - to hear that a younger sibling understands why we do what we do. if anyone thinks the life of an Oldest Sib is easy, think again... it's not always a pretty job to properly train a younger sister or brother, but someone has to do it ;). happy hump day!!!!

The Blonde Duck said...

You're so nice to do that. I don't think I could have!

Misty Rice-Baniewicz said...

Thats cute. By the way I have your frame in, but for some reason I have not received your candle. Checking on that today.

Midwest Mommy said...

That is just such a cute picture. Your post is very true.

Alyssa said...

love the pictures! that's a great idea!

My Precious Peanut Designs said...

I love the "Don't worry I'm training baby sister" comment! How cute! I hope you wrote that one down in her baby book :)

Brooke said...

i'm with you completely. i stalked my sister as a child, so to get some time away from me she had to lock me in the laundry room.

but to this day she's still my best friend.

Misty Rice-Baniewicz said...

Well this must be a popular candle, its not going to ship until at least March 17th. YIKES!!!

So to save on postage though and get it all there together, I will go get another candle today and ship yours out to you and I will just keep the one on backorder. Seriously, a candle on backorder. Geez!!!

Items not yet shipped:
Delivery estimate: Mar 17, 2009
Lavender Vanilla Candle - 3x4"

♥ Kathy said...

How sweet she's training her :) Oh my goodness I can remember REALLY scary things my sister & I did to each other growing up. I'm truly amazed we survived each other lol but today we ARE so super close. It all works out in the end ;)

Jill of All Trades said...

You know I used to dream of "doing away" with my little sister for YEARS! Now we are very, very close even though she can get on my nerves sometimes. Our girls fought like cats and dogs and I never thought they would like each other but now that they are thousands of miles apart they so miss each other and love each other.

Amy said...

I love that idea. It looks like the two of you had a fun time. When you get all cleaned up stop by my page. I have something cold waiting for you.

Amy said...

Thanks for having such a wonderful blog to come and read and hang out. I like going to Hawaii every day.

Hillbilly Duhn said...

That's too Cute!!

Krystyn said...

How sweet. Playing referee is never fun. And, I just always have to remember that now my sis and I are besties!

~*Michelle*~ said...

Love that photo....and can I say I laughed out loud with you being locked outside buck naked? My boys just dared their youngest brother to run down our 200 foot driveway maked and get the mail. LOL

Anyway.....your girls are gorgeous and you are certainly blessed. :)

Peace
*~Michelle~*

Sarah Bee said...

That is simply precious, I LOVE the pictures of her painting your belly what a fun idea! I really like the perspective you have on sibling rivalry, it's refreshing, and I'm sure will be encouraging to me one day when I'm dealing with the same situations! =]

MaBunny said...

Hey there! Thank you for stopping by my blog! I hopped on over and here and read about 3-4 of your posts and really enjoyed them! You have a very beautiful family.
Stop by again soon! I'll will hop back over here on occasion too.

Sassypants Wifey said...

That is super cute. I am interested to see how the girls grow up together. I dont have a sister, so I am curious what they will experience. I honestly didnt want a sister when I was little, but now that I am older I see the value and think of all the things i missed out on. I hope my girls continue to stay close. Already Older one seems more artsy and little one seems more athletic. We shall see!

Bee and Rose said...

That is a fantastic way to celebrate! What a lovely memory too!

mommaof4wife2r said...

love love love!!!

Chris said...

Nothing to fear there.

I'm almost sure of it.

I really love your creative streak, by the way.

Megan @ Little Bella Bean said...

Oh my goodness, what your sister did to you cracks me up! And I love the photos of your painted belly!!
=)
Megan

Susie said...

What a beautiful tribute to sisters. I myself don't have one and my girls are too far apart in ages to have this so, it is neat to see:-)

Thank you so much for your support! I am getting a lot of comment love but the ones from my readers are the best:-)

Amy said...

I feel like such a silly goose. I am so sorry. I am so new to your site I read you have two girls right? Then thought there was another one. Sorry about that. If you do I would be so honored you if you call her Amy. OOPS.

Amy said...

Just letting you know I shared my OOPs with you. I found something on another blog about funny stories. I hope you do not mind. If so I can so get rid of it. Have a great day.

Melissa said...

That is awesome!

Katy said...

I like this post. I have a sister and we were not exactly nice to each other either, but are very close now.
I like that your oldest was painting your belly, cute.

Idabel Oklahoma said...

Ohhhh...gotta call our siblings now. Nice belly!

Carebear said...

I love this idea!!! I'm doing a maternity photo shoot for a friend having her second child and I am so stealing this idea from you! I actually just stopped by to introduce myself as a new SITSa and invite you over to “Two Under Two. Whew!” for my super-fun-and-little-bit-silly giveaways, one of which is tied to our fellow SITSa, BlogBaby! You could win a collection from Tiny Two’s Baby Animals line, or some chocolate covered pretzels! See you around the blogosphere friend!

Mrs.Naz@BecomingMe said...

That is awesome. I love the picture.

vsm/whirling dirvish photography said...

How awesome!
My older sister and I were best friends and still are today. I think this post is great!