Involving my daughter with my pregnancy helped curb her baby jealousy. We involved her in everything from naming the baby to letting her spruce up my belly's curb appeal with some exterior paint. Despite all our efforts they still fight but I don't stress about sibling rivalry and their battles for Barbie control and toy dominance. I know they will eventually find their own unique place in the world and stop fighting over the same space.
I love my own sister. I adore her and can't imagine my life without her. She held me down, spit in my face, flushed my head down the toilet and locked me outside buck naked. I am a better person for all her torture. We are as close and drastically different as only sisters can be. I remind myself that my daughters' spats, battles and quarrels are the foundation for a lifetime friendship. I have stopped obsessing over fostering a loving relationship free of sibling rivalry between my children. Instead I am trying to remind myself that they are two individuals building a relationship. Their strongest bonding moments will develop when I am not around and it is a bond that will probably outlast me. They are already sorting things out beautifully without me playing referee. My oldest assured me today,
"Don't worry mom, I'm training baby sister".
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